"Dear Dr. Selma Help" is a handbook for Christian lesbian, gay, bi-affectionate, transgendered persons attempting to better cope with the daily concerns affecting our love, social and family relationships. This book offers insight into the LGBT community which has been largely ignored by mainstream self-help authors. Dr. Selma's writings travel into a closeted world and exposes the bitter-sweet baggage that is an aspect of living as a lesbian, gay, bi-affectionate or transgendered Christian in an often intolerant African American community. This handbook puts a face on the struggles of the Black lesbians and gays who desire to remain loyal to their Christianity while refusing to deny their true selves. This collection of letters, articles and testimonials reveal a refreshing view into the lives, loves and spritual pursuits of the Africian American lesbian, gay, bi-affectionate and transgendered world.

The purpose of this book is to remind us about the promises of God, and to reassure us that His love is unconditional. God hath chosen us, in Him, long before the foundation of the world. And, we must fulfill the purpose for which we have been made. Still further, we, LGBT believers, as with other Christians, have been created for the purposes of God. God is directing our lives for his purpose. Subsequently, when we believe this and the many promises of God, we are saved by faith and, we are justified by faith. With this justification we have the right to stand before God without fear or condemnation. Furthermore, once we have accepted Jesus as our personal savior then we are no longer under the law, rather we are under Grace. Because we have all sinned, and fall short of God's standard. Yet now God in his gracious kindness declares us not guilty, according to the scriptures.

God chose us, the African American lesbian, gay, bi-affectionate and transgendered people for his purposes, to be adopted into his family. We belong to God, we are his children. God made us LGBT for his purposes. We have been redeemed, as believers in Christ. We have been redeemed. The price has been paid. We have been sealed with the holy spirit of promise. Because we have been set free from traditional religious legalism, we will rise above the shame and condemnaton that mainstream society has long subjected us. As important, the consequences of the hatred and insensitivity preached by traditional church leaders, will not continue when LGBT people come to fully understand for themselves that God made us in His image and likeness. Surely,this religious condemnation of lesbians and gays will stop when we learn to stand on faith and retort that we are justified by faith. Sadly, too many LGBT people have been hurt and suffer when we are turned away from our families, friends, jobs and neighborhoods because traditional churches, which are the powerful cornerstone of the African American community, are guilty of preaching hatred toward all LGBT people.